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The days of grooms setting conditions in the marriage market have gone downhill today.
This has completely turned upside down and now in the marriage market, women are the ones who are setting a thousand and eight conditions that the groom they are looking for should be like this and that!...
For example, a conversation like this that I heard from a friend who runs a marriage matching center in Chennai...
Nowadays, today's women have started a new trend. Even though two women who registered with us had a good horoscope, status, job, and salary, the groom's family ran away after hearing the conditions that the groom's family had set, saying that they would not see the cloth or the cloth. The condition that those women set with the groom's family was that I would agree to the marriage, but I would not have children. Hearing this makes me shake my head..
For the past 14 years since I started this, I have been keeping the registration process very strict by making the parents come directly to me. Sometimes I would talk to girls and boys directly to come to the office. Do you know how much difference there is between the mood of girls and boys at that time and the mood they have now...
For example, the mother of a girl who recently came to register her daughter said this...
‘‘Last month, we looked at a place for our daughter and got her engaged. After four months, we fixed the wedding date. When we talked on the phone, our daughter didn’t like the boy’s words. She didn’t want this wedding at all, so we tried to convince her and came to register again,’’ said the parents.
‘‘What did that boy say!’’
*My daughter had asked if there was anything else, and the boy had said, ‘There is a cook. But if she takes leave, you will have to do something.’’ Our daughter didn’t like that. ‘If the cook takes leave, our mother will take care of it,’ you should say, why does he expect me to do it? I work for such and such a company and earn so many thousand. He talks so much (!) about nothing. If he wants to cook or make coffee, he should go to the village and see an uneducated woman. Is what she says fair to us too (!)?’ The mother spoke without giving in, knowing her daughter’s mood!...
The girl who came to see the file next must be 32 years old. ‘‘Dad, the horoscope you gave me matched, so I gave him the boy’s cell number. I tried talking to him. But I don’t think he’ll come back. (He doesn’t say no now.) I told him that I went to the movie the other day. ‘Who else went?’ he asked. I don’t even know the manners not to ask like this! I want my space. "Madam, only a very broad-minded guy would suit me!" the woman spoke quickly.
Not only this... I have been hearing so many different dialogues like this.
“The word I don’t like in life is compromise. Why should I compromise? I don’t need such a life,” said a woman. She is also approaching 30 years of age....
This is what a parent came and said... “Our daughter is not the adjustable type. Let’s say that right now. So, see if there is a place where there are no parents... Or is there a boy who lives abroad and works here with his family?” they said...
Another parent said very clearly... “Don’t expect our daughter to cook. She doesn’t even know how to make coffee.” Tell her this first! They said.
“When our daughter is in the mood, she cooks well. She knows how to cook. But she doesn’t like to cook”...
“Our daughter is very independent. She doesn’t like it when someone asks her something.”
‘‘Our daughter doesn’t have faith in God. Tell her this at the boy’s house. They’ll tell her to turn on the lights… then she’ll be ‘out of the mood’’, the parents who inform her…
Seeing all this, we can understand how much the thinking of today’s young women has changed regarding marriage.
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Even if you register for the groom, it’s the boy’s family who calls back and asks responsibly, ‘Has the groom arrived?’’. Even if I call the girl’s family myself, they say that the girl will come only on Friday… I want to talk only on Sunday… If I just talk to her, she’ll be out of the mood… and then she’ll be gone this weekend. There are still some who say, ‘‘You talk to my daughter yourself and find out what’s on her mind…!’’’
Today, women's expectations regarding marriage have become total...
The attitude of thinking of their future partner as their 'security', saying 'This is our life from now on... My happiness or sorrow is with him!...' has completely disappeared.
''Today, I will say OK to marriage only after creating a security for myself in life!'' women say.
The reason why most women postpone marriage is this 'security'. ''I have booked a flat... I have some commitments for that... No matter what, I need a security!...'' they say.
Besides, it has become normal for many women to go abroad for work, projects. They have embraced the life, comfort, and free spirit there and expect the same in our culture... They even think that no one should control them even in their speech.
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For example, the girl who rejected the boy who asked her who she went to the cinema with!...
In fact, nowadays, the attitude of (some) parents of girls has changed... Gone are the days when parents worried, 'Oh... I'll marry my girl off when she's twenty-five!' Now, they say, 'I won't force her even if she's 29 or 30.' Some say, 'If I have a girl for another couple of years, we can finish all our household commitments and enjoy life a little!'" They don't say that. I'm not talking about everyone... Just a few percentage!...
Today's girls don't have the confidence that 'this will definitely be a successful marriage!'.
Good education, a job in a good company, and an active boy are good foundations. Instead of thinking that my future married life will be better at 40 or 50, I think, 'I expect to be 2 inches taller.' Selecting a husband in the same way as selecting a hero for a film she is going to do, saying, ‘Color is a little bit too much.’
Forgetting the basic truth that if her husband is well educated, employed, and raised with good morals, it is because of the patience, sacrifice, and love of his parents, she says, ‘Even if his parents were there, it wouldn’t have worked out well.’
Do you know what they lose in life by thinking all this and getting married as they get older?
Parents are also getting older, and they are also suffering from poor health, even after reaching 70 years of age. A marriage that should have been a special event with the support of their parents during their old age has to be held on their own due to the old age or loss of their parents.
Not being able to bear the suffering of going to a fertility center, doctor, and medical examination to see a child with their own eyes, such as the hassle, mental stress, and expense of going to the hospital.
Parents aged 60+, who should be able to breathe a sigh of relief after being taught how to read, are feeling a sense of guilt over their daughter's marriage ban, isolating themselves from relatives and friends and becoming depressed. As a result, these women lose the opportunity to see their parents happy and enjoying a peaceful old age.
There is no doubt that women who first fully trust themselves, trust their family and husband who trust them, and get married between the ages of 20 - 24 will definitely live a successful married life.
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